9.07.2008

The dog children and other parental reflections...

So it's 5am and I still only sleep about 2-3 hours a night so if something I type here sounds dumb, give me a break. ;) I thought I'd follow up to say the dog children have gotten WAY better. They still are pretty stressed when he's crying but they are otherwise pretty calm. We had an "ahhhh" moment last night when Declan was totally asleep on my chest (about to be put in his car seat to sleep) and Mark had opened the window and it was raining and the fresh air filled our living room. We were just as we were 1 week ago- sitting on our big couch with both sleepy dogs just enjoying relaxing together. Of course now there was a pretty cool addition to the picture. It was a really cool "this is us now" moment and it made me teary. The weird thing is that I haven't been weepy really at all so far. We were in shock for a couple days and that was a tear blocker and, fortunately, I don't have to deal with all the crazy hormones I would be if I had birthed him. Side note- I have much respect for women who have babies and go home to recover and have to care for an infant. I'm physically the same as before he joined our family and I still struggle so I can't imagine.

One thing I want to openly admit is there is no way to be prepared. I pride myself on all my reading and research. I had pretty definite opinions on things I want to do (my baby will sleep in their crib right away!). What have I learned? Having a newborn is living in SURVIVAL MODE. You do what you need to do to have him be happy. I'm also in shock how much stuff you go through: diapers, wipes, formula, bottle washings, laundry. He's such a little guy and I've done 3 loads of wash in 6 days! Ha! Maybe I should have bought more newborn clothes, huh? ;) So, to summarize, my life is no longer mine and that's a million percent fine. I wouldn't want it any other way. He's amazing and we're smitten. :)

13 comments:

Tracey said...

Glad you are so happy, especially with no sleep...Love the picture!!!

ash said...

that is so awesome! you guys are doing a fabulous job, and i agree; there is no way to prepare!
love you, talk to you soon.

Sarah Ann said...

It's an accomplishment that you still blog!! This is going to be so amazing to go back and read. I'll be praying for you. Only God knows what little Declan needs. There are so many times where I've read books and put it down feeling more like I've failed as a mom. He's trusted YOU with him and he will guide you two in how to raise him. Books are helpful, but not the only source...that's for sure! Thanks for sharing your heart with all of us.

Stacy said...

LOL!!! I Love the pic!

Mountain Girl said...

It's good to see Daddy and the dogs with Declan. How cute! Just remember to treasure these moments when he is so tiny because soon enough he'll be sitting, crawling, walking etc. Dirty dishes, dusting and all that other stuff can wait! :-)

the d'angelo family said...

You are doing a wonderful job with Declan! Keep up the great work...there will be plenty of time to sleep later on...enjoy every moment for now!

Melba said...

Oh I'm so happy for you...glad the adjustment is going well!

BrandiH2007 said...

That must have been an amazing moment. And I think you're right, you're never as prepared as you think you are. My mom keeps telling me that and I'm sure you're both right. Babies have minds of their own.

Love the pic, glad to hear the dogs are getting better.

becklaw said...

thanks for adding me. Sorry i was impatient! I just love reading your blog (it's one of my fav's)!

BecMama said...

It is so amazing how God uses his littlest children to teach and mold his big children. You are no longer living for yourself as Declan needs you for everything to survive. Such an amazing reality. Mama, Daddy, such sweet words they are. Rest when he rests, it's the best way.

Robin said...

Thanks for the add, Ashley. I'm soooo happy for you. You have a beautiful boy (and the dog children are pretty darn cute, too!)

Emily said...

Great pic, love the update....sounds like me 7 months ago! :) Our story is much like yours...one week you're sitting around being parents to your pup(s) & the next there's this baby who dominates everything you do/think! :) Don't you love it?!

Rebekah said...

Okay, that's just about the cutest picture I've ever seen! I love your outlook and could not be more thrilled for you guys!!!!! Soak it all in Mama, you deserve all the blessings!