4.05.2011

Preferences

This picture cracks me up because I see many of Declan's preferences. This day, he wanted his glasses, not his hat. His baby doll HAD to come with us (though I tried to keep it in the house so it doesn't get filthy/lost). I offered up a snack of Trader.Joe's cinnamon crackers but he also insisted on "crunchies" too. 

Mark put Declan to bed tonight while I picked up the living room (toy explosion). He then went to "jam" with some buddies and it's been over an hour of me trying to get the little man to sleep. The most recent time in his room, he insisted that he needed bandaids for his skinned knee. Okay. No prob. Then the preferences kicked in- he didn't want Mickey bandaids, he wanted Toy.Story bandaids. So I laid him back down and placed his favorite 2 stuff animals at his side. I started to cover him in a blanket and he literally went from drifting off to sleep to whining. Why the whining? He wanted the GREEN blanket, not the POLKA DOT blanket. 

Ha! Please tell me this isn't just my child?! I choose my battles so you'll see lots of giving in. Hope it doesn't bite me later.  Where's the hand book on all of this? ;)

8 comments:

Julie said...

It's not just your child!

Stefan, Sarah and Lukka said...

can your son talk a bit yet? I TOTALLY recommend the book Love and Logic (they have them at the library). It's all about giving them choices (even the most ridiculous things you can think of...they love to choose) and then when it's time for them to do something (go to bed) It's "MY choice now", and it really works. I'd had so many people recommend this to me I got it at the library and it has changed the way I talk to the toddler(s) in the house. Totally works!
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Tracey... said...

My son is constantly making deals...and we are writing the handbook each day.

Simply Complex said...

Girl, you read my mind. Man, I feel defeated so often- and I try to separate what is worth giving into, and what isn't. You know, what matters, and what doesn't. But it seems like a battle all of the time. It is fun but so exhausting. I just keep trying to tell myself that it's 18 years down the road that matters, not this exact moment in time.

For example, this morning he didn't want to do his breathing treatment so I tried to say, "you can't get down from your chair until you do fishie" Well, he didn't care that he had to stand there, and darn it, I am kind of on a schedule. I can't wait three hours for him to wake the heck up and do his medicine routine! Yesterday I tried the same thing with picking up the cereal he threw on the floor and he sat on the couch for over an hour so he didn't have to do it. I got sick of waiting and almost lost it- finally making him get down on the floor to do what I asked. But how do you FORCE a two year old to do anything? That's what I want to know.

(I bought Love and Logic, just haven't read all of it it yet)

happymomof2 said...

Oh it is NOT just your kiddo! I have a 5 year old DRAMA Princess!!!! WHEW!!! Would like to say it gets better but for us it hasn't.

Rebekah Wilson said...

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! My precious daughter this this stage as well. Sort of clears up when she hit 3.5. It is a stage of being able to state their desires but also testing the waters to see how far they can go with demands. Pick and choose battles and remember take a big deeeeeeeeep breath.

Seriously....Me. said...

The Toddler is 3 1/2...OMG. Defiance is his middle name. Right now we are in full 'uh uh' mode which is making me nuts. Not the right pajamas, not the right shirt, not the right freaking car one day...like I have another car to offer up! I'm learning to pick my battles, but geez. You are not alone.

raisingmiles said...

Sometimes you just have to pick your battles! Let the little things sliiiiide.....

Love the shades!